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Top 5 Questions Everyone asks a Dominatrix

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Have you ever wondered what your Dominatrix’ favorite bdsm activity is? Or how you can be a better a slave? Perhaps the following can point you in the right direction. Below are my 5 most frequently asked questions and my answers. You might find the questions and their answers a bit surprising. Seattle Dominatrix Ruby Enraylls has the answers to your questions and some tips.

What is your favorite thing to do in a session?

It depends on my connection with the person I’m playing with. Having overlapping interests is important. I’m big on bondage, predicaments and power exchange. I really enjoy mind fucks and getting to be creative. I often tend to get really into a theme for a while. A bit ago it was medical then ADBL, chastity roleplay scenarios, prisoner stuff… it’s always something and my specific interests seem to rotate and shift. I enjoy curating an experience for someone.. The more creative the better. I like longer scenes so I can build up ideas and get to know someone, knowing someone over a longer period of time helps with this as well. Nothing can beat intimate knowledge of the inner workings of someone.

What got you into BDSM and the Femdom lifestyle?

Like many of the people I talk to, I have been kinky for as long as I can remember. If you’ve read my about me, I talk about being kinky when I was pretty young, when it was literally just a game. I don’t see anything wrong with that, although many people I’ve spoken to want to find the reason they are into bdsm. This implies to me that it is something to be fixed when I don’t think that’s true. That’s like saying any preference is inherently wrong. It’s my belief that a homogeneous world is pretty dull, among other things.

But I digress. I’ve always had an interest in Bdsm and the very first adult images I found were femdom related. So it seems normal that I would trend that direction, especially considering that I was raised in a female dominant environment.

Are other people into my fetish?

The shortest answer is yes. I’ve played with many, many people and I can tell you with complete confidence that even if someone hasn’t engaged in your particular fetish, there’s definitely an interest. We live in a kinky world. The biggest barrier to entry is unfortunately, shame.

What do you find attractive in a submissive/slave?

The evil variation of this question is “will you go on a date with me” or worse “can I be your live in slave?” Before asking such questions, consider the one posed above and ask yourself “what do I like most about me?” Personally what I like most about my slaves is that they are considerate, kind and respectful. Every person I notice has a willingness to consider the needs and desires of others and makes an effort to do so. It’s often small things that make the biggest impressions.

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What can I do to have the best session with my Domina?

Communicate! Clearly, honestly and respectfully. Sending a long fantasy and play by play isn’t particularly helpful to be completely honest. Writing out a list of yes’s and no’s, hard and soft limits and any specific things you want to try is a great way to start. I prefer to communicate such things at the beginning of the session unless there is something you think I won’t have or something that will need to be prepped for or negotiated. As we get to know each other more, I find that sometimes planning gets a bit more elaborate and more communication before we meet up is necessary or desired.

How Do I find a Dominatrix near me?

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How do I find a dominatrix?

I am often asked the question “how do I meet a dominatrix?” or “how do I find a dominatrix near me?” Having my location obviously posted, I find these questions a little confusing. Why would someone ask me of all people to help find a Dominatrix near them? I’ve done several YouTube videos, one of which has over 5 million views, so it makes sense to ask me even if I’m just a Seattle Dominatrix.

Why meet a professional Dominatrix anyway?

There are many reasons why you should meet a professional Dominatrix over someone who is purely lifestyle, the number one reason being that we are professionals. Being professional means that:

  • We are highly skilled in the art of BDSM, very accepting and have a lot of experience. As such you are less likely to get hurt and more likely to have a great time.
  • We have awesome dungeons because we’re more invested and our toy collections are very impressive. Why wouldn’t we be the ideal BDSM date?
  • Most importantly.. We are No drama. When the scene ends, we aren’t going to pull a Fatal Attraction on you. We want to keep this arrangement as relaxed and carefree as you do. 

How do I find a dominatrix near me?

Well, that’s why you’re here isn’t it? You have probably taken some missteps along the way, maybe you’ve fallen for a scam. Here is my order of preference to help you meet a dominatrix near you.

  • Use google. Terms like “dominatrix in Seattle”, “local Dominatrix”, “Seattle mistress”, “dominatrix near me” or “seattle dominatrix”. But replace Seattle with your city or state. You will find at least one website.
  • Browse Adult Ads. Sites like Eros or Tryst are great are pretty reputable.
  • Social media alone is Dodgy. Use social media to verify an ad or a website is real. If someone contacts you via social media, they are fake.
  • Do your own research. Research should mean connecting information you find. Make sure an Instagram profile is linked on a website. Check the age of that website on wayback machine to make sure it isn’t a fake of another website. Reverse image search images.
  • Here are some tips. Google the name, number and email you find. What does it pull up? Does it match other information? Is it blank? If it all matches other information, she’s probably legit.

Where do I not find a local Dominatrix?


Catfish love to pretend to be professional mistresses, they frequent the following and will approach you first. Remember, if it seems to go to be true, it probably is.

  • Fetish Dating Sites
  • Social Media (Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Reddit)
  • Dominatrix Dating Sites
  • Messenger Apps (Snapchat, WhatsApp, Discord, Signal, Telegram)
  • Any Dating Site
  • Kink Specific Apps

A scammer will contact you first from these methods. They will message you a lot and it will seem ideal but there will be some red flags like they will have a payment method that goes to a man or will only take BTC. Use reverse Google image search on the photos they send. Always.
Now that we’ve gotten all of that out of the way..

How do I book a BDSM session with a Dominatrix?


Most Dominatrixes have websites. READ THEM. We have specific contact instructions and screening. Follow our rules and you will be rewarded. Typically we will ask you to contact us via our contact forms or email. Text is for those who know us and have established relationships or for last minute instructions. Calling without being given permission or instruction to do so will annoy us. Doing anything outside of our instructions that is more convenient for you than it is for us will annoy us. Think about how you would make a good impression for a first time job interview, you would not expect the other person to jump through hoops for you. Do not expect a Dominatrix to jump through hoops for you either. Approach with respect and be courteous. You do not have to go overboard but simple things like reading do’s and don’t beforehand can go a long way.

How do I make a good impression?

  • follow all her rules
  • Don’t ask too many questions, particularly if they are already answered on her website.
  • Ask questions that are relevant and present yourself honestly.
  • Understand that time is money for everyone. Approaching a Mistress is all about respect. If your initial approach involves many asks, compensating for that shows that you are going the extra mile to be respectful.
  • Use the right method to contact her. Be it a booking form, professional email or otherwise.

SPH Hypnosis Clip: Succubus SPH Brainwashing

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Hello, my prey… I bet you’re wondering how I invaded your slumber, but there’s no need to worry about that. Don’t pay that any mind. All you need to do is keep on fantasizing. All you have to do is watch my pendulum. I saw right into your dreams. The dreams in which you’re inferior.
They’re right, you know – your dick is small and you’re not worthy.

You’ll cum before you wake because little pathetic fucks like you always do that. That amuses me greatly and I love abusing that, that’s where I get my power. You probably even came before I got here – that’s what attracted me. You need women like me. Know that your place is beneath the foot of a powerful woman. Your little dick makes you inferior. You’re not even worth my time.

When you jerk off, it shows me that you are less of a man. I hunger to suck your soul. Succubi lure you in with the thought of something more and then snatch your soul. We make you believe there is a chance of something greater. We steal your soul and make it so that every time you get an errection, you think of us.

Your dick is tiny and you are worth nothing.

Your tiny dick makes you inferior to women but that’s OK because all you do is jerk, jerk, jerk. You are going to please me from now on, in any way you can.
Give your soul to me.

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Scheduling System, Rates, Film Days

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New Scheduling System

I’m delighted to announce that I have added a new scheduling system! This system is only available to those who have completed and passed my intake screening form and those who I have seen before whose contact info I recognize. Once you have completed my form, you will get the login to schedule. If your info doesn’t match info I have, you don’t get to book with me. I am strictly only accepting new inquiries through or with the completion of my form.

Rates (Clarification)

Firstly, my contact and rates pages have been combined. If you’ve been watching my advertisements or my lovely dominatrix website lately I’m sure there’s been a little confusion as to what my rates are. Let me first say, sorry for the confusion and here is some clarification-

Balancing face to face time and what an appropriate risk level is during the pandemic has been a little tricky.

I’ve also been surprisingly swamped with inquiries. Fortunately, I’ve found a solution to that problem, if you’ll see the above (new scheduling system.)

During the last year or so I’ve made some incredible improvements to my dungeon, my bdsm equipment and my dungeon furniture. Prior to my pandemic rate change, I hadn’t raised my rates in years. I think that my improvements are astonishing and well worth the price of entry. You will just have to see for yourself.

Now that I have gotten better organization of my calendar and effective time management, I’ve decided to postpone my October raise but add some other offerings. As per usual, keep abreast of my website, I’m always updating it!

Filming Days

I have very much been enjoying filming with other performers, I hope you have enjoyed my work as well! I’ve discussed with several folks about the prospect of filming together so I wanted to make the formal announcement that I’m going to start offering a “filmed session day”. You will be required to sign a standard model release and provide ID so that I can use the footage but you will be rewarded for it.

Film Days available in 4 hour, 6 hour and 8 hour denominations.

Duos and Moresomes

After Sesta/Fosta was announced, I removed mention of all other people from my site. Since I’ve begun filming with other performers I’ve had folks ask about them and I wanted to answer that question: I absolutely do duos. In fact, I love getting to see you and my friends together! If there’s someone you think is fun or cool, ask us!

Gear Update: Erostek ET312B and Estim 2b

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At long last, another gear update! This time… A shocking one. (So punny..) But seriously, I have added the now discontinued Erostek ET312B and the Estim 2B plus a large collection of addons. Everything from CBT, wartenberg wheels, sounds, probes, butt plugs, clips and more! Are you excited yet?

About the ET312B

Erostek is the king of Estim. Their ET312B has been produced since 1999 and has been beloved by kinksters, reproduced, tinkered with and it is a loss that they are no longer in production. If you have the opportunity to get your hands on one like I did, jump on it. With a little luck they may come back into production in some form but if you’ve wanted one, don’t miss your chance. Erostek offers information and parts for current owners. So they are repairable and reliable.

About the 2B Power Pack

The 2B is the only power unit I have used that compares favorably to the venerable ET312B. The 2B’s smaller form factor makes it a great portable that literally jumps to life when powered by the included AC adapter. 

highly recommend this power unit. Those of you who have been following us know this is the first power unit we’ve ever offered by another manufacturer. The 2B caught me by surprise – in a good way. 

– Erostek.com 

Does this mean the 2B is the new king on the electro scene? You’ll have to be the judge.

Comment and tell me what your favorite estim power box and/or attachments are!

Earn Your Orgasm – JOI Game with Consequences

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You are always such a good plaything, so pliable and obedient. I’m going to tease you to your breaking point to make you more obedient and most importantly, get you to confess your darkest fantasies. If you can’t do that then you’re going to be locked in chastity until you’re willing to tell me all your dirty little secrets.

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Lovespell Manipulation

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Your addiction to me just keeps growing and growing, I know how to feed it. You make yourself look away, even if you wanted to. I know how badly you want me to take you deeper under my spell. Let my shiny lips tease you with every word that flows from them. My beautiful breasts mesmerize you and make you make you weak until you have no self control left.

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Bust Them Harder for My Ass

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You wanted to be the most obedient slave for me, well now is your chance to prove yourself. Bust your balls, as per my instructions as I urge you on with my glorious ass. Tempting you, teasing you. With each wiggle, I command you to bust your balls even harder for me. Can you take it?

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More than a Fantasy

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The world of day dreams and fantasy is one that I have often found so captivating. In this realm, reality does not apply but that is also the draw back. I’ve caught my mind wandering to stranger and stranger places, ones that are familiar to me if I’m truly honest but that I hesitate to speak about to others. That is the power and captivation of the fantasy dreamland- I need not worry what others think. Sometimes I dare to wonder, do others have the same proclivities? If I wish hard enough, I can imagine a partner who is a perfect mirror to my perversions. Indulgent, wicked, precise. Without much appearance of effort, she has me in her clutches. Here is where I find myself, browsing the internet nestled in the privacy of my self indulgence. The world out there is vast, expanding further than my crude searches can encapsulate. Still, I fumble my way through erotic, tantalizing and quite graphic content until seemingly by fate.. I find her. Again, I dare to wonder. Could my desires be more than just a fantasy? With a click on a button, they are all but a fantasy.

A Dominatrix Guesses Strangers Kinks (Ruby)

A Dominatrix Guesses Strangers Kinks

Something like six months ago I was in a series couple of videos titled A Dominatrix Guesses Strangers Kinks and Guess My Kink Lineup by Cut. They were created by a Youtube studio called Cut that creates content that creates funny, entertaining, prankish and oddly bias challenging videos. When one of the reps contacted me to do the video, I felt comfortable working with them having had done a couple videos before but I had no idea what to expect this time around nor did I have any idea what would happen as a result of the videos being published.

“Guess My Kink” sounded like a game that I could win, so I was game. What I wasn’t prepared for was the emotional impact it would have on me.

During the filming, we had time to connect with each other but the initial camera time I was very off kilter- I was in a room by myself and had no opportunity to connect with anyone. (Although I did make friends with several people after the fact.) It was unlike any time I had been on set because I had been completely alone prior and didn’t know anyone. I know that was part of the point but it was quite unnerving. Once I stepped on to the set, I had to instantly turn on into my normal mode but it wasn’t quite right.

I often play a game of a dominatrix guesses strangers kinks as a party trick or just as an every day part of my life but when you’re dealing with absolute strangers, under video lighting with cameras rolling it becomes a different game. What if I say something humiliating? What if I reveal too much about other people? What if I sound biased or rude? I became very self conscious and suddenly had no idea where I was standing with regard to other people. Then it hit me, this was the whole point of the creation of the video. Other than myself, everyone just looked like people you might find on the street and on any other given day so do I. People in the BDSM community are just like everyone else and unless you know someone pretty intimately their kinks might surprise you. I knew from watching other Cut videos that creating videos was designed to challenge the viewers but I didn’t realize that I was part of that venture. I consider myself fairly open minded but I suppose you can always be more open minded and considerate of others.

Anyway, I believe that our beliefs (both positive and negative) should be challenged. I hope that you too are given wonderful opportunities to open your mind and explore your biases and thoughts.

Watch the video here!