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A Lesson in Chastity Training

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Welcome to your first lesson in chastity training. You’re here because you want to learn how to be the perfect chastity slave for me and you know that my chastity training regiment will get you there. All you need is a little help or a little push to help you overcome any shortcomings, hesitations or temptations you may have. Allow me to guide you into your cage.

First off, you must prepare your body and your mind for me, this is crucial into getting into the right headspace. This will be a recurring feature of your training, so be sure to practice mindfulness regularly. You will thank me.

Helpful Hints

Be Patient
Relax and take your time
An Open Mind will Guide you to the exact place that Mistress wants you to go.
Take a practice photo

Supplies Needed

A Chastity Cage
A Pen
Paper
A Twitter Account

Extra Credit

If you wish to amplify your experience you can purchase an audio guiding you through the whole process of locking yourself in chastity for me and feeling its tight grip, my tight grip. Then the meditation and exploration on chastity, you will have the pleasure of my silky voice guiding you through your experience.

If you wish to have some product suggestions to help soften or improve the experience and offer deeper guidance, you can book a texting, emailing, skype or phone session with me here.

Give over Your Mind and Body to Domina Ruby

Place your device on, wiggle into it and feel it secure you tightly. Feel my control wash over you and sit down comfortably after you have fastened it around yourself. You will rest here and clear your mind for 5-15 minutes, make sure you are comfortable and close your eyes. Make the focus of your thoughts around your feelings about chastity and being in service to me. Allow your mind to relax and clear naturally, if it wanders allow it to but keep bringing it back to your thoughts of chastity and try to make note of where your thoughts wander to.

Don’t punish yourself for getting off task just simply correct yourself and clear your mind, this is the process I am teaching you- The art of focus, relaxation and devotion.

There is no excuse for not having at least 5 minute to do this, longer is better and you may find that being more comfortable makes it easier to focus. Being distracted is no excuse either for that is the whole point for this exercise- clearing your mind of distractions and focusing it.

After you sit write a tweet about your thoughts and take a photo of your chastity and a sign with a creative note expressing your devotion. Include the hashtags #femdom #RubyEnraylls #chastity #slavetraining #DominaRubyEnraylls #IwillObey

Leave your device on for the rest of the evening. (Unless you experience pain, if so remove it and document your failure.)

You have finished your first lesson in Chastity Training for Mistress Ruby Enraylls

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Top 5 Questions Everyone asks a Dominatrix

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Seattle Dominatrix Ruby Enraylls in her seattle dungeon with a Slave

Have you ever wondered what your Dominatrix’ favorite bdsm activity is? Or how you can be a better a slave? Perhaps the following can point you in the right direction. Below are my 5 most frequently asked questions and my answers. You might find the questions and their answers a bit surprising. Seattle Dominatrix Ruby Enraylls has the answers to your questions and some tips.

What is your favorite thing to do in a session?

It depends on my connection with the person I’m playing with. Having overlapping interests is important. I’m big on bondage, predicaments and power exchange. I really enjoy mind fucks and getting to be creative. I often tend to get really into a theme for a while. A bit ago it was medical then ADBL, chastity roleplay scenarios, prisoner stuff… it’s always something and my specific interests seem to rotate and shift. I enjoy curating an experience for someone.. The more creative the better. I like longer scenes so I can build up ideas and get to know someone, knowing someone over a longer period of time helps with this as well. Nothing can beat intimate knowledge of the inner workings of someone.

What got you into BDSM and the Femdom lifestyle?

Like many of the people I talk to, I have been kinky for as long as I can remember. If you’ve read my about me, I talk about being kinky when I was pretty young, when it was literally just a game. I don’t see anything wrong with that, although many people I’ve spoken to want to find the reason they are into bdsm. This implies to me that it is something to be fixed when I don’t think that’s true. That’s like saying any preference is inherently wrong. It’s my belief that a homogeneous world is pretty dull, among other things.

But I digress. I’ve always had an interest in Bdsm and the very first adult images I found were femdom related. So it seems normal that I would trend that direction, especially considering that I was raised in a female dominant environment.

Are other people into my fetish?

The shortest answer is yes. I’ve played with many, many people and I can tell you with complete confidence that even if someone hasn’t engaged in your particular fetish, there’s definitely an interest. We live in a kinky world. The biggest barrier to entry is unfortunately, shame.

What do you find attractive in a submissive/slave?

The evil variation of this question is “will you go on a date with me” or worse “can I be your live in slave?” Before asking such questions, consider the one posed above and ask yourself “what do I like most about me?” Personally what I like most about my slaves is that they are considerate, kind and respectful. Every person I notice has a willingness to consider the needs and desires of others and makes an effort to do so. It’s often small things that make the biggest impressions.

Seattle Dominatrix Ruby Enraylls is dressed in black latex with her latex slave in her Seattle BDSM Dungeon where she takes requests for Femdom and mistress sessions

What can I do to have the best session with my Domina?

Communicate! Clearly, honestly and respectfully. Sending a long fantasy and play by play isn’t particularly helpful to be completely honest. Writing out a list of yes’s and no’s, hard and soft limits and any specific things you want to try is a great way to start. I prefer to communicate such things at the beginning of the session unless there is something you think I won’t have or something that will need to be prepped for or negotiated. As we get to know each other more, I find that sometimes planning gets a bit more elaborate and more communication before we meet up is necessary or desired.

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Hypnosis Trigger Word: PINK

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You LOVE the color pink but it’s about to take on a whole new meaning for you. You’ve had some desires buried deep down that you can no longer ignore. The more you see the color pink, the more you can’t ignore its power over you.. More importantly, my control over you. The longer you listen, the less you can ignore your desires… Can you hold off your cravings or are you just going to keep watching on repeat?

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The Ultimate Femdom Gift Giving Guide

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What is the ultimate slave task? Understanding your Mistress. Think of your research into her/their preferences as slave training. Are you trying to impress your Mistress? Make her happy? GOOD. That is exactly what you should be doing as her loyal servant. A birthday shouldn’t pass without you celebrating with your Mistress. 

I’m turning 30 in the middle of April so I decided to create an easy guide for my loyal subs to find me a gift that we both will enjoy.

As with all gift giving, you should ask yourself “is this for them or is it for me?” The latter is fine but you should acknowledge that you are giving them a gift for you rather than investigating what they might want. If you want to knock it out of the ballpark, your best methods for success are research and paying attention. I think that successful gifting is based on how well you know someone’s love language which relates to their gift preferences.

  1. Service

Does your dominant talk about wanting to be able to do something or have something done but they don’t have the bandwidth, time or energy to do it themselves? Easy. If you can make it happen for them, do so. Ask questions if you aren’t sure of something. A great example of this is The Garden Path that one of my subs commissioned for me on my birthday a few years ago. I enjoy it immensely and it was one of the best gifts I’ve gotten.

  1. Something Useful

Everyone loves having that magic thing that fills a hole in their life or solves a problem, maybe one they didn’t know they had. In order to achieve this, you must know them well. A great example from my life is receiving a very nice set of knives when I started cooking. I didn’t know how amazing good knives are compared to the crappy ones I was using.

  1. Something Practical

Finding something practical that someone needs or wants is a pretty easy gifting opportunity and they will think of you whenever they use it. I have gotten tennis shoes, a sofa, clothes, kitchen items, things for my cats, gift cards that enabled me to complete a project or simply enjoy something. 

  1. Luxury Items

I feel that anything outside of the realm of what someone will normally spend on themselves is a luxury gift.Or an upgrade to something they already have. You usually have to ask or do research but it can be immensely exciting to get a gift that you wouldn’t buy for yourself. I’ve received jewelry, shoes, lingerie, dungeon furniture and a NAS set up to backup all my media.

  1. An Experience 

Do they talk about wanting to go somewhere or do something? Perfect! Whether it’s a trip to the spa or a trip to the beach, experiences are precious and the memory doesn’t fade. I’ve been taken on trips, taken to events, done crazy things and had my spa trips paid for. Big or small, I’ve loved every experience.

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How to Avoid Being Scammed by a Fake Domme

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I can't believe it's not a real domme

In current times it seems that someone or several someone’s have taken to impersonating me and many other Dommes online. They are using my image to steal money and information from people. Here are some ways to avoid having that happen to you and to learn how to spot a fake domme and avoid being scammed on dating sites.

My only official contact information is as follows:

1-206-486-4960
rubyenraylls@protonmail.com
Twitter: @rubyenraylls
Instagram: @Ruby_Enraylls_
Reddit: Rubyenraylls
Tumblr: seattlemistress

Scammers Are Sweet

A scammer will always reach out to you first, comment on your posts, like them, butter you up and make a lot of amazing promises! Does she sound like your dream domme? She probably isn’t real. Is she sending you a bunch of pictures and videos? Ask yourself why she might do this. Sometimes scammers play a long game, they may take a while to ask you for money (I had one who took months with me but her photos were cropped ones from a Suicide Girl.) They may even look and sound almost like the real thing, which can be frustrating when you’ve sent a message over Instagram and she didn’t respond. Unfortunately, DM’s run a risk of getting us banned! A patient sub is always a good sub. <3

Does the social media or account look legit?

Is the person using an actual domme’s name?

A key point in how to spot a fake domme is that they are using a variation of a name like instead of @rubyenraylls they are using @rubyenraylIs with a capitol I instead of an l. The rest of the social media will look the same, except the follower count will be much lower (unless they have reported the main account and gotten it deleted.) Does the name have a bunch of numbers after it or is it a different name entirely? (You can only figure out the latter by reverse google image searching but we will get to that.) Does it just tweet crap like domme memes? Does the account have almost no followers? Does it look a lot like another account but slightly different? Did the account reach out to you and start flirting? If the last one is true plus any of the above, the account is fake. Established Dommes don’t reach out. Sorry but we don’t.

Is it on a dating site?

If it’s on a kink or Fetish specific dating site, you are getting ripped off by the new Ashley Madison my friend. Every account on there is fake. Cancel your membership before someone convinces you to do something you regret. If you want to find someone, you need to be upfront. It sucks but trust me.

In all seriousness, many accounts have been reported to me on sites like Senior Domination, Sissy Dating sites and ABDL specific dating sites. I love all of these people but I do not seek people out on dating sites.

Please apply these tip to any dating site you use so you can avoid being scammed on dating sites and social media.

Always reverse google search the images

One of the most critical steps in learning how to spot fake dommes and find stolen images online is to reverse image search them. You see where the images come up elsewhere and see other information about the images.
Ask yourself: Do they bring up a website? Does the name match or is it different? What information here has been published first? What doesn’t match? Is the person I’m talking to shortening a longer name? Dommes don’t switch names . Our names are our brands. If the name doesn’t match the website or the branding is different, you have a fake domme.

Check the website

Does the domme in question have official social media and an email listed? Are is the person you are talking to using a different account and email but unable to respond with either of those methods posted on the official website? If so, the person you are talking to is absolutely 100% fake.

Does the writing style on the website match the way the person types to you or do they recognize references cited on the website at all? If not, that person is the same person.

Most importantly

If a person approaches you from an account that looks suspicious and asks you for money straight up, it is most likely a scammer. Dommes don’t have time for that crap.

If you find a scammer or fake using my images

Please take a screenshot and of your interactions and the account and send all of your information to my email: rubyenraylls@protonmail.com
Relevant information would be: Their profile link, any images they sent you, any conversation containing non sensitive information, any contact information you have for them.

Thank you, I value your help.

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Service Opportunities

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Have you ever wanted to serve me?
Well today is your lucky chance.

Much like any busy person, I have an endless to do list that I never seem to get to the bottom of and an endless list of things that always need prepping, preparing or acquisition. In other words: Errands and chores.

I won’t keep things too long and arduous but I do like to keep things fun so consider this an invitation for an application. You may email my gmail account Rubyenraylls@gmail.com with your application and qualifications.

I will be shortly posting tasks here as well.

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Ass Eating Clip: Only My Number 1 Gets my Ass

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“You’ve done such a good job!” Says Mistress Ruby to her favorite slave “As a reward, you get to worship my ass today.” Slurp, slurp, slurp goes his lucky tongue between her perky perfect cheeks. “Mmffpphh Yes Mffpphhistress.” he responds. “Good boy.” She purrs back and petting his head before turning to me then snapping coldly, her demeanor suddenly changing. “As for you… You’re in the corner today. That’s what you deserve, isn’t it?” I shake my head, solemnly. I had disappointed my Mistress, which is something I ought never to do.

She sighs. “You’ve disappointed me, you know.” I hang my head in shame, hearing the lapping and wishing I could be so lucky. “I’m sorry, Mistress..” She is ruthless and doesn’t accept my apology, nor should she. “You better keep quiet, you understand? Don’t disturb me.” Slurp, slurp, slurp. That lapping is driving me crazy, I wish I hadn’t been such an idiot. I wish I could have pleased her. Now she is ignoring me and rightly so, her pleasure is all that matters.

She smiles at me almost to torment me says “Listen to the pleasure this slave is getting..” The wet slurping between her cheeks of his tongue is driving me mad while I sit in the corner where I belong, watching with the head hanging. “While you get nothing.” She grins cruelly “Yeah, you’ll do better next time won’t you?” She turns away and ignores me again and I almost can’t stand it. “You please me so much.” She says to her favorite slave. “Later, I’m going to make you my toilet. All those glorious things that come out of your Mistress, they are going to go right into you. What a wonderful honor to receive my gifts.” He moans with delight.

She turns back to me and shrugs “You know, my heels are quite dirty. They could do with being cleaned. I suppose I could make some use of you after all.”

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POV Tease Clip: Mistress Ruby Cock Tease Expert

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Relax, little boy. I’m going to turn you into a man today. I’m going to show you what happens when a real woman gets her hands on your cock. I’m gonna make your cock stand right up for me and twitch with delight from my touch. I’m going to hover oh-so-close and make you think I’m going to do please you like all those normal submissive women before me but you know I’m different. News flash: You’re playing by my rules now and it’s about what I want not what you want.

Think you can handle a femdom?

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