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It’s been a long week already but you’ve had your email to distract you. Normally you hate the airport, the waiting, the delays and all the people. This time it just gives you time to build up tension. Her emails, texts and photos have kept you on edge the entire time and you can’t wait to see what awaits you on the other end of your flight. She reads you like a book but your Mistress is so mysterious to you. That always works to her advantage. This time she says she has a surprise for you, given what she knows about you… You can only imagine what it could be. Oh well, time to board and shut down.
You’re on your toes the entire flight, you can’t manage to get a lick of work done. Ugh. Hopefully you’ll have your wits about you later.
You land and you get one text that says simply “Surprise is at the hotel. Meet at the usual spot.” A shiver runs down your spine and your cheeks burn. Holy shit, what did she send to the hotel? Fuck. Your mind is racing and the obnoxious hum of the Uber driver’s too loud-not your taste music fades away into the background. You are too fixated on what awaits you at the hotel and then later, in her clutches.
The lobby seems entirely too bright when you walk in and you float over to the check in desk. “Hi, um..” you stammer. “I’d like to check in. I believe you have something for me too..?” The woman behind the desk smiles brightly and acknowledges you, taps her keyboard then hands you two key cards and a shipped box. “Can I help you with anything else?” she queries but you are completely lost to the world.
Oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck. She sent it. She actually sent it. You feel your excitement starting to build. You suddenly snap back to reality and the check in desk girl is staring at you. “Uh, sorry.” You blurt out. “Long flight.” She shrugs and repeats her question. You decline, thank her and excuse yourself quickly. Being careful to hold your personal items in such a way to not disclose your excitement to any casual passers by.
Up in your hotel room you are brimming with anticipation, staring at your box. Yet you don’t dare open it without permission from your Mistress. You fired off a text as soon as you were in the elevator but it feels like every second is taking an eternity. Finally, a reply. “Yes, open it. You’ll know what I want you to do with it.” The text is almost too much for you but you steady yourself and tear into the box.
Of course. Packed neatly inside the discreet box is your very own chastity device. You gulp, you were on edge before you got on the plane and now you know you’ll be in for more torment. You get so compliant and obedient when you’re locked. She knows just how to push your buttons, you can’t help but comply. The device is snug but it fits just right, you can’t help but obey and put it on. With a click, it locks securely. For a moment, you feel panic and decide to back out. Unfortunately, there’s no key in the box. Fuck. Your phone lights up… It’s a text. “Freaking out yet? You’ll have to earn that key back… This is going to be a fun trip!”
You feel yourself strain against the cage. Oh. Fuck…
There are so many different types of chastity cages to choose from, making a selection sometimes seems impossible. There are many different styles, materials, shapes, you name it! Which one is right for you? Hopefully I can shed some light on how to purchase a chastity device that will work for you by illuminating some critical consideration points.
Before we start with sizing we need to consider how you’ll use this device. Are you going to be locked up for an hour while you go out and get groceries for your Mistress? Is it a night of chastity for you, lucky boy? Perhaps something more long term like a week of being locked in your cage. Maybe something more intense still like a long term chastity contract that spans weeks, months or if you’re really lucky, years. Each duration has different considerations to make with the fit, sizing, materials and even locking devices.
Let’s start out with the basics
How to Size a Chastity Cage
How to Measure for a Chastity Device
Where do you need to measure for fitting a chastity device?
- The circumference of the shaft of the penis
- The length of the penis
- The circumference of the entire genital (below the base of the penis and the testicles)
You must take these measurements while your penis is soft then repeat them when it is erect to get adequate sizing.
The sizing for most chastity cages or devices tends to come in MM so convert your measurements into MM using Google.
How to Fit a Chastity Device Properly
Many basic devices offer a variety of different sizes of base rings (the ring that goes around the entirety of your genitalia.) This ring holds your chastity device in place and prevents it from falling off. Before purchasing a device take a piece of string the same length as one of the rings you are considering and feel how it feels tied around the base of your penis. This should give you an idea of the fit in that department.
As far as length, try to find a middle ground between your length when soft and when hard. However, that is kind of up to your discretion. Do you want that classic feeling of being cramped and unable to get erect? Lean closer to your soft measurement. Need more room for longer term wear? Go somewhere in the middle or go with the full length if possible.
Picking the right material is mostly a weight issue or a customization question. Do you like the weight of metal or do you not mind the extra effort to put on plastic? Silicone is easy in all of these areas but not secure. 3D printed is highly customized, covers all the bases but expensive and not good as a first choice.
As far as locks the biggest question is how trustworthy are you? Metal locks provide that extra security plus the classic literal keyholder element. The numbered plastic locks can be removed and put back on be crafty subs (for that matter the plastic cages can be broken with enough force.) So metal can’t be beaten in that regard (for the really enthusiastic chastity players you can find some pretty intense full metal belts.) However, is your chastity sub going through lots of airport security or is there another reason they might need to remove it? Bluetooth unlocking options such as apps are a great option. Bluetooth luggage locks are fun too but they can’t get wet. All of these are fun options with long distance training.
At the end of the day, trust is always a huge part of any type of play. Being kept in line or keeping someone in line is critical but a struggle loses it’s charm. 😉
Examples of Different Chastity Devices
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Different Styles of Chastity Cages
Your basic styles are the same: A place to put your penis and some type of ring that holds the cage securely in place. However what tends to vary is how the device goes on, how snugly it fits and how easy it is to put on. The devices with hinged rings are super easy to put on but not good for long term wear as they press. The metal tubes can be bulky and if the ring is the wrong size it can be difficult if not impossible to fit all your gear inside. The plastic devices are also difficult to put on at first and usually require lubricant or the aid of a q-tip. I wouldn’t recommend wearing a sound for long periods at all.
Chastity in Summary
Everything is customized to your fit, read descriptions, look at reviews and always measure first. It takes trial and error to get the right fit, I wouldn’t recommend getting the most expensive custom cage first until you’ve tried things out a bit. That being said if you are confident that you know what you want there are many options in that direction.
However, if the cage is uncomfortable or causes any swelling, bruising, burning, tingling, numbness, cold spots or discoloration remove it immediately. Some pretty nasty things can go wrong if you aren’t careful. Luckily, in a pinch your friendly neighborhood hardware store sells bolt cutters for under 20 bucks.
I hope this has helped you make some decisions about buying your chastity device! Feel free to reach out if you have any questions.
If you are interested in exploring chastity, I delight in being a keyholder. Check out my page about that here!
You’re just a toy to me. I’m going to put your place and show you that by cramming your face in my pussy and smothering you when you don’t have a choice. Mmmm… What a delight it is to own you, slave. Since you’ve been so good today and you’ve tried so hard to worship me I’m going to let you cum for me now, but on my terms. That means you only get to breathe selectively, good thing you’ve been practicing! You like the sound of that, slave? Good. You don’t have a choice. Now get your face in there. I’ll let you breathe when I’m satisfied. Until you get close, I’m just going to ride your face.
I like feeling you gasp with delight against my pussy, that’s real power. Your cock is mine. It feels good to be my sex toy, doesn’t it? Stroke your cock for me, faster and faster. Good boy. Edge closer and closer. It feels so good to be deprived of air by my beautiful ass, doesn’t it? Good slave.
Now cum for your Mistress while you can’t fucking breathe.
You’ve been begging for this moment. I’ve heard you, I’ve decided to be a little bit merciful and because someone asked nicely I decided to share. You want me, don’t you? You think you deserve it. Beg me, to get a glimpse of what’s under my silk panties. Go ahead, I want to hear you plead and whine. You think you’ll get what you want. News flash: I’m the Queen in my world and you’re just a little pawn that I keep around for my amusement. Be funny and keep me laughing or I’ll knock you down and drag you off the board when I’m bored with you.
Go ahead, start begging to kiss these perfect pink lips. I’m going to tease you with this pretty mesh and make you think you’re going to get to see something real dirty but we both know it’s a ruse. So close though and in such high, crisp definition. It’s almost like it’s up close and personal. Almost as if you could touch or taste.. Mmm.. You could almost smell it from here… It’s divine, isn’t it?
Mmm, I love when good boys present their cocks cock me to torment. They know that their cocks really belong to me, isn’t that right? Yours is my property now too isn’t it? Good boy. Since you’ve been such a good boy and I’m in a good mood I’m going to give you a treat. Unfortunately you have to earn it. That means you have to suffer through my relentless edging. I know you’re not going to cum unless I make you because your cock belongs to me but it’s not going to be easy for you to last anyways, not that you have a choice..
Ooooh! Hi fresh meat! Did I just catch you trying to sneak a peek up my skirt? That’s funny. Rude little boys like you are always trying to look without asking, maybe if you asked first I’d give you a nice long look. Instead how about you sit right there and stare at me while I tease you? Maybe I’ll give you a little flash but you’ll just have to wait and find out.
I’ve got a big ring on my finger, your credit cards and your balls in my purse. Funny, all those women online call themselves findoms but they’ve got nothing on wifey. You work your ass off to cover my demands, I spend your money as I please and you can’t say shit about it lest I cut off the glimmer of hope you have to even smell my pussy. You know I’m laughing at you behind your back every time I say “I have a headache”. We both know I love sex, just not with you. It’s way more fun to manipulate you into begging me for it and then cuckolding you without your knowledge. That’s right, I’m fucking him. There isn’t shit you can do about it either. So suck it up, hubby. Beg me, grovel and buy me a new pair of shoes.
Really? You couldn’t even make 2 weeks? That’s pathetic. You’re ruled by your tiny little dick and it’s disgusting. You’re not worth my time. I was going to reward you but why bother? I’m not even going to waste the time to coerce you into pleasing me or buying this clip because you just flat owe me. You’re just a failure. You know what? You want my attention? Buy it back. Go ahead. I’m waiting.
What a good little obedient little boy toy you are! I bet you’ve got tons of cum saved up for me now don’t you since you haven’t cum for oh… 2 weeks. Now you’re going to keep pace and stroke your cock in beat with me as I shake my ass and laugh at you. Then as your reward, you’re going to lap up all of your hard held back cum for me. That’s a good little fuck toy.
Fancy a little game? I like games, especially when they involve you squirming for my amusement! So the challenge is this: You aren’t going to masturbate for 2 weeks. Your cock and all your orgasms belong to me, no cheating. This challenge is designed to help you learn how the world works, I own your cock anyways but you’re just participating in the game this time.