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There are so many different types of chastity cages to choose from, making a selection sometimes seems impossible. There are many different styles, materials, shapes, you name it! Which one is right for you? Hopefully I can shed some light on how to purchase a chastity device that will work for you by illuminating some critical consideration points.
Before we start with sizing we need to consider how you’ll use this device. Are you going to be locked up for an hour while you go out and get groceries for your Mistress? Is it a night of chastity for you, lucky boy? Perhaps something more long term like a week of being locked in your cage. Maybe something more intense still like a long term chastity contract that spans weeks, months or if you’re really lucky, years. Each duration has different considerations to make with the fit, sizing, materials and even locking devices.
Let’s start out with the basics
How to Size a Chastity Cage
How to Measure for a Chastity Device
Where do you need to measure for fitting a chastity device?
- The circumference of the shaft of the penis
- The length of the penis
- The circumference of the entire genital (below the base of the penis and the testicles)
You must take these measurements while your penis is soft then repeat them when it is erect to get adequate sizing.
The sizing for most chastity cages or devices tends to come in MM so convert your measurements into MM using Google.
How to Fit a Chastity Device Properly
Many basic devices offer a variety of different sizes of base rings (the ring that goes around the entirety of your genitalia.) This ring holds your chastity device in place and prevents it from falling off. Before purchasing a device take a piece of string the same length as one of the rings you are considering and feel how it feels tied around the base of your penis. This should give you an idea of the fit in that department.
As far as length, try to find a middle ground between your length when soft and when hard. However, that is kind of up to your discretion. Do you want that classic feeling of being cramped and unable to get erect? Lean closer to your soft measurement. Need more room for longer term wear? Go somewhere in the middle or go with the full length if possible.
Picking the right material is mostly a weight issue or a customization question. Do you like the weight of metal or do you not mind the extra effort to put on plastic? Silicone is easy in all of these areas but not secure. 3D printed is highly customized, covers all the bases but expensive and not good as a first choice.
As far as locks the biggest question is how trustworthy are you? Metal locks provide that extra security plus the classic literal keyholder element. The numbered plastic locks can be removed and put back on be crafty subs (for that matter the plastic cages can be broken with enough force.) So metal can’t be beaten in that regard (for the really enthusiastic chastity players you can find some pretty intense full metal belts.) However, is your chastity sub going through lots of airport security or is there another reason they might need to remove it? Bluetooth unlocking options such as apps are a great option. Bluetooth luggage locks are fun too but they can’t get wet. All of these are fun options with long distance training.
At the end of the day, trust is always a huge part of any type of play. Being kept in line or keeping someone in line is critical but a struggle loses it’s charm. 😉
Examples of Different Chastity Devices
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Different Styles of Chastity Cages
Your basic styles are the same: A place to put your penis and some type of ring that holds the cage securely in place. However what tends to vary is how the device goes on, how snugly it fits and how easy it is to put on. The devices with hinged rings are super easy to put on but not good for long term wear as they press. The metal tubes can be bulky and if the ring is the wrong size it can be difficult if not impossible to fit all your gear inside. The plastic devices are also difficult to put on at first and usually require lubricant or the aid of a q-tip. I wouldn’t recommend wearing a sound for long periods at all.
Chastity in Summary
Everything is customized to your fit, read descriptions, look at reviews and always measure first. It takes trial and error to get the right fit, I wouldn’t recommend getting the most expensive custom cage first until you’ve tried things out a bit. That being said if you are confident that you know what you want there are many options in that direction.
However, if the cage is uncomfortable or causes any swelling, bruising, burning, tingling, numbness, cold spots or discoloration remove it immediately. Some pretty nasty things can go wrong if you aren’t careful. Luckily, in a pinch your friendly neighborhood hardware store sells bolt cutters for under 20 bucks.
I hope this has helped you make some decisions about buying your chastity device! Feel free to reach out if you have any questions.
If you are interested in exploring chastity, I delight in being a keyholder. Check out my page about that here!
You are the weaker gender of the species, it’s time to admit it. Your cock is what makes you weak and women are what drive you to create and also destroy yourself- Sucks to be you. HAH! Fortunately, I hold the keys to your freedom and also your demise; Chastity. I am going to lock away your desires with the snap of my fingers and force you to be my little cuckolded bitch, just like you deserve. You can’t resist me and you might as well just give in to my erotic magic before you hurt yourself trying too hard to control yourself. We both know it won’t work anyways. I own your cock and you, now I own your mind too.
HEY! There’s been too much back talk and too much… Staring around these parts. If you’re going to stare I’m going to show you how to do it right. You understand me? I’m going to press this beautiful ass right up against your face and make you learn to appreciate it or gasp for trying. I’m sick of you thinking you can just stare without there being repercussions. This is not how this world works, you play by my rules and you’re going to love my ass MY way.
Press your face in nice and tight, you better take a deep breath first because this is going to be ruthless and I’m going to enjoy making you into my little faceseat ass slut as your punishment for staring.
Ooooh! Hi fresh meat! Did I just catch you trying to sneak a peek up my skirt? That’s funny. Rude little boys like you are always trying to look without asking, maybe if you asked first I’d give you a nice long look. Instead how about you sit right there and stare at me while I tease you? Maybe I’ll give you a little flash but you’ll just have to wait and find out.
I’ve got a big ring on my finger, your credit cards and your balls in my purse. Funny, all those women online call themselves findoms but they’ve got nothing on wifey. You work your ass off to cover my demands, I spend your money as I please and you can’t say shit about it lest I cut off the glimmer of hope you have to even smell my pussy. You know I’m laughing at you behind your back every time I say “I have a headache”. We both know I love sex, just not with you. It’s way more fun to manipulate you into begging me for it and then cuckolding you without your knowledge. That’s right, I’m fucking him. There isn’t shit you can do about it either. So suck it up, hubby. Beg me, grovel and buy me a new pair of shoes.
My lovely domme friend, Mistress Jasmine and I are in the mood to amuse ourselves. Look what we have here! A delectable, supple slave that we can sit on, smother, humiliate, bind and slap! Awww, what a poor helpless slut! Luckily, you fit the bill! Your cock and balls are in for a treat. And a lot of pain, too, but that’s what sluts like, isn’t it? Sit still and stop whining while we abuse you for our amusement! If you make too much noise, we’ll just stifle your groans!
Oh? What’s that? You want Mistress Jasmine’s Pussy? Hahahahaha!!!! Nice try! Slave! You don’t deserve that! Oh! Look at you getting hard while we smack your cock and balls! Pathetic! Maybe if you hold out long enough you’ll get a reward.. Maybe. 😉
Really? You couldn’t even make 2 weeks? That’s pathetic. You’re ruled by your tiny little dick and it’s disgusting. You’re not worth my time. I was going to reward you but why bother? I’m not even going to waste the time to coerce you into pleasing me or buying this clip because you just flat owe me. You’re just a failure. You know what? You want my attention? Buy it back. Go ahead. I’m waiting.
What a good little obedient little boy toy you are! I bet you’ve got tons of cum saved up for me now don’t you since you haven’t cum for oh… 2 weeks. Now you’re going to keep pace and stroke your cock in beat with me as I shake my ass and laugh at you. Then as your reward, you’re going to lap up all of your hard held back cum for me. That’s a good little fuck toy.
Fancy a little game? I like games, especially when they involve you squirming for my amusement! So the challenge is this: You aren’t going to masturbate for 2 weeks. Your cock and all your orgasms belong to me, no cheating. This challenge is designed to help you learn how the world works, I own your cock anyways but you’re just participating in the game this time.
Here are several more paragraphs from the Lucky Boy about his experiences in chastity, getting a reward, disappointing me and my response to the disappointment. Enjoy!
Miss Ruby took me to her space, tied me and blindfolded me. Now, I had been told not to wear my chastity cage that night so, there I was blindfolded, pants around my legs and my cock hard, dripping and aching for Miss Ruby. I had no idea what would come next and her mastery at being in charge only fueled my sexual desires even more. Miss Ruby invaded my ass, stroked my cock, clamped my nipples and took complete control over my willing body. I wasn’t allowed to cum and she brought me closer and closer to the edge and then back again. I had such a desire to cum but my desire to be good overcame it. Then she gave me permission to and I couldn’t. I wanted to so bad, I was right there on the edge and I tried and tried and Miss Ruby was being so good to me and giving me everything and more than I should have needed to cum but I just wouldn’t. It was like this frustrating combination of all my insecurities and having not cum in almost three weeks and I never came. After we were done and I was left frustrated, feeling like I had been a disappointment, Miss Ruby informed me that I was not allowed to cum and she also gave me some new chastity rules.
Whether or not I had truly been a disappointment that night, only Miss Ruby knows. However, what undeniably was a disappointment was me, the following morning. Not only did I break the chastity rule while shortcutting but, while doing so I also broke the rule of not being allowed to cum. I was so frustrated with having not cum and still so heated with my desires for Miss Ruby that I took from her what was hers, what I had voluntarily given up control of. It was one of the worst orgasms I’ve ever had. It was painful and I felt like such a disappointment during and after. I felt pathetic. I chastised myself and argued with myself all morning between telling Miss Ruby and not telling her. I knew that I had to be honest so I sent her a text telling her what had happened. I waited and waited and since having met her I had the worst day at work. I was close to tears throughout that day. I mean, she had taken such good care of me the night before and I ruined it all with one little selfish action. I just knew that she would be angry and feared she wouldn’t even want to have anything to do with this pathetic submissive who was untrustworthy. She did forgive me but, she was worried and rightfully so. I was relieved that she forgave me and I got to go and see her again that evening.
We spent that evening visiting and discussing what I had done. I couldn’t even look at her unashamedly for the longest time and she could definitely tell. Miss Ruby seems to be able to peer into my soul and see exactly what I need, deserve, what I desire and if not, she certainly knows how to get it out of me. That evening I had the sincere pleasure of staying the night. It felt absolutely amazing sleeping next to her. Miss Ruby’s body not only looks perfect but it also feels perfect. Her soft skin, soothing voice and her touch, oh that touch, are all so amazingly delightful to be curled up next to. I got to lay there with my head on her chest for quite some time, listening to her heartbeat as it lulled me off to sleep. It was the best night’s sleep I’d had in quite some time and even though I only got a few hours I felt rejuvenated. I was the happiest boy at work the following day and people couldn’t figure out what was going on with me. I was goofy and playful and probably the most positive that I’d been in quite some time. Miss Ruby had forgiven me, I did have a punishment coming, but her forgiveness and her desire to still want to see me and not give up on me meant so much to me. I have this fear in relationships that I’m going to be tossed to the side, be given up on, or just suddenly and without warning cut off. It’s happened to me in the past and it frightens me to the point to where I pretty much just expect it. I’ve avoided some potentially meaningful relationships in the past or ended some because of this fear. I hate having that fear but, I have this trust, feeling or, whatever you want to call it that Miss Ruby’s not going to give up. She seems to want me to serve her, to be a good boy for her and I have every intention to do my best for her.
I got to stay with her the following night as well and spent most of the next day by her side too. We slept in together, she held me, she teased me and, she made me feel safe. I enjoyed every moment with Miss Ruby. We worked on a project together and I got to see a really fun and funny side to her. There was barely a moment where we weren’t either laughing, touching or just simply enjoying each other’s company. All of the kink aside, it’s a real treat to be around someone you can have that kind of a connection with. She makes me feel not only like a good submissive but also like a special person who’s worth her time to be around and who is adding something to her life. I don’t ever want to take away from Miss Ruby. I hope that I can be just as good to her as she’s been to me.
As for everything else, I’ve offered to take pain for Miss Ruby. I’ve always felt that BDSM was a two way street. There is a reason why Dom’s are Dom’s and sub’s are sub’s. I want to take her pain, I want to be her good boy, her whore, trustworthy boy, friend, submissive – whatever she needs. What I don’t ever want to be and what I will put every effort into; is to never be a disappointment again.